Monday, March 24, 2014

THE NÉNI LETTER

Sister Naegle asked me if I would write my mission advice to her since I'm about to kick the bucket. As a true néni, I will happily oblige...
THE NÉNI LETTER
You-
*Smile- don't let your body show the stress you are feeling as you find. Then you'll stop being stressed anyway.
*Pray about, then make, then follow through with study plans.
*Extreme obedience brings extreme blessings.
*Progress- always do something significantly better than the previous transfer. Changing doesn't mean what you where before was bad, but rather what you will be is great.
*Serve and be served.
*Be clean- there's truth to the uplifting spirit of a clean home.
*Allow yourself to do cheesy things you love. Don't let embarrassment keep you from your talents.
*Don't cut yourself short by justifying yourself against others.
*FIRST TO THE LORD, THEN to your mission president THEN to your companion- loyalty to all.

Investigators-
*Be brave enough to be specific with your prayers.
*Listen and clarify- somehow they need to know you care or how will they know God does?
*Study for them- have a page in your study journal for inspiration you get for each person.
*Write down thoughts after each lesson.
*Have faith in them- expect them to do what’s right, but don't blame yourself when they don't.
*Don't be apologetic with extending commitments.
*Always aim for the end goal, but be grateful for all the progress and planted seeds and blessing along the way.
*GET THEM TO CHURCH.
*Doors and people are not dependent on each other. Don't assume because the last 10 doors were shut that the next will.
*Pray with them for their friends and family BY name and need.
Members-
*Whatever you do should be towards helping them be self-reliant. (Example- teaching them HOW to lead rather than leading the music each week.)
*The fastest way to win their trust is by being strictly obedient and diligent- DON'T stay for more than an hour!
*Follow through with calling them brother and sister.
*Invite lots of different members to lessons- you'll always be blessed for trying to get members to lessons even if it seems logical that your investigator isn't ready for that.
*Talk to them about their friends and family and pray for each one of them by name and need.

Companion-
*Don't count straws- don't do the whole "it’s your turn to buy...". If you are selfless it'll fall into place and if not, you'll be blessed anyway.
*Keep conversations uplifting and inspiring ("we speak of Christ, we rejoice in Christ")
*Have fun IN the work, not out of it. I promise it is possible.
*Play finding games.
*Just love them. You won’t look back and think of the stupid things they did, but rather you'll look back and think that it’s stupid you were ever bugged by it.
*Pray for them in lessons and in finding and in your personal and comp prayers.
Leaders-
*Always support and follow their instruction. Miracles happen just by making the choice to try our advice. You will be blessed.
*Pray for them.
*Ask about their successes and their testimony.
LOVE ALWAYS
I could go on and on like a true néni but there's your rough draft of sorts. Enjoy your mission.

szeretlek mindig,
Curtin nővér

Reality


Sziasztok,

This week was great. Sister Naegle even said it was the best of her mission so far. For me- it was real and I really liked that. On Tuesday night, the elders didn't get back in time to let us into the building so we had to teach outside. We walked down by the city building and sat on a bench. The weather was great, the lighting of the city and moon unique, and the sound of the kids playing in the square very Hungarian. One lady we are teaching is one of my favorites. She is nice and rendes (I asked Michelle was rendes means, she said, "rendes doesn't translate, but I kind of like to translate it to spiffy or put together.") and even brings us chocolate all the time. We just sat and talked about the restoration and we also talked about her life, her fears and her dreams. These moments are so real. I have come to love these people so much. Moments like those don't mean so much to everyone else, but boy do they mean a lot to me!

Another moment this week, we taught that lady I wrote about last time. She opened up to me about the hardships of her life. Or another moment sitting in the fire station and talking to the guys about the plan of salvation. Or another moment when we ran into the elders on the street but then left them mid-sentence to street a spunky looking girl who is now going to be meeting with us tonight. The moments are real and these people are real. I certainly have grown to love them. 

They compliment us often for the sacrifice we've made to come here, but they don't really realize what we've gone through for them. They don't really know how hard it can be. I have sacrificed so much for these people- I've gone though SO much for them. But because of that, I love them that much more. It's worth it because they're worth it. These moments are really worth it and the other reality is that I now only have a little bit more than 2 weeks to enjoy every last moment. Every last screech of the villamos every last kick out of a building, every climb up 10 stories, every last knelt prayer. Every moment is worth it and leads to another hundred worth-while moments. 

That's the reality.
Szeretlek mindig,
Curtin Nővér
P.S. The little details:
1. Apparently it is technically rude to talk during dinner (only before or after the meal), but no one actually follows that.
2. The fire alarm at the fire station plays epic music before it announces who needs to go.
3. A Hungarian bought peanut butter for us to use on the palacsintas (Hungarian pancakes) she made for us. Then later she gave it all to us, because it's weird. :) 

10 doors

Sziasztok,

This last week we had Zone Conference with Elder Dyches. He gave a lot of great advice and training and I'm really excited to see where this mission continues to go. I have a pretty strong testimony of the power and blessings that come when you follow the council of the leaders God has put in place for you. I'll give one example: President Dyches mentioned one way of working with the wards to look up and find addresses of missing members. He said to go there and try; if they aren't there then tract 10 doors on each side and you will see miracles. Well we happened to have a name from the ward to look up, so we tried it. 
The lady we were looking for, wasn't there. So... we tracted 10 doors on each side. At one, a lady opened the door only slightly. At first she wasn't too keen on talking to us, but then when she found out the name of our church, something changed in her and she let us in. We went into her apartment, sat on some stools while she sat on her crate-made bed. We opened with a prayer and she cried. We read a little from the Book of Mormon and she said she knew God sent us. She agreed to come to church.
Well then Sunday came around and the first meeting started and she wasn't there. Pretty disapointing after several prayers. But then... in she walked, all the way to the front row and sat down. After church we talked to her and she said on Friday she had gone to a different church and not felt good, but when she came to ours on Sunday, she felt she found her place.
It doesn't matter how simple the instruction, when it's given from a leader and you follow- blessings always follow.
Szeretlek mindig,
Curtin Nővér
p.s. The little details.
1. March 15 is a holiday here. Because of that, they sang the national anthem in church. One of our investiagtors gave us a little run down of the background of the song. It comes from a lot of suffering and years of wars, but a lot of deep rooted family ties and courage. God bless the Hungarians.
2. It is rude to yawn without covering your mouth.
3. Today we went to the local piac- which basically is a hundred small open air markets selling a whole lot of meat.